Dan Flynn, author of Why the Left Hates America, asked a few days ago:
How do gays consummate their marriages?
Without consummation, a marriage isn’t considered complete. It can be declared invalid and annulled. The inability to consummate the union is one reason to scoff at the notion of gay marriage.
He also, of course, goes into the fact that the first Provincetown marriage was between two men who have an open relationship. I will say that I think that’s unfortunate for the cause, if only because it gives folks like Flynn ammunition, especially when so many gay relationships are entirely monogamous. It’s not like some married straight people don’t have open relationships after all (see Swingular for some examples), but I don’t see anybody complaining about the lack of sanctity in those people’s relationships.
Anyway, back to Dan Flynn’s consummation question. He must not own a dictionary or didn’t think to look in it before asking.
Gay people consummate their marriage by having sexual intercourse, since the verb form of “consummate” is defined by Merriam-Webster as to make (marital union) complete by sexual intercourse.
Now, since we all know somebody’s going to say something stupid like “gay people can’t have sexual intercourse—where’s the vagina (or penis)?” let me point out that:
1) penile/vaginal intercourse is called “coitus”
2) the definition of “consummate” nowhere mentions coitus
3) rather, “sexual intercourse” is physical sexual contact between individuals that involves the genitalia of at least one person.
Clearly, gay people are perfectly capable of fulfilling the definition of sexual intercourse and thereby consummating their marriages.
I can explain further if necessary, including diagrams and drawings. Something tells me it may have been a while for those using this argument. After all, they’re obviously not familiar with what “sexual intercourse” is.
By the way, I first learned of Dan Flynn’s lack of sexual knowledge at all-encompassingly.
May 22, 2004 at 3:28 pm
I barf at the notion that all relationships, to be considered “valid”, must be monogamous or traditional in any sense of the words. If two people want to get married and never even see eachother naked, that is thier business. And WE’RE supposedly the ones forcing our views down everyone else’s throats.
May 26, 2004 at 11:55 pm
I saw that post and couldn’t believed he asked that. What an idiot.
May 28, 2004 at 1:48 pm
Great post!